Family Insight Guide | Day 3 |

‘Love your kids by loving your partner. Why intimacy and fun are the keys to a good marriage.’

Have you ever wondered how to love your kids the best?

“The best way to love your kids is to love your partner.” - Peter Crocker

This quote from Steve’s Grandad has always been a guide for us and our marriage. We intentionally work on our marriage, so we stay as intimate, best friends, working together to run our family.

When the marriage bond is strong the family has a firm foundation to grow. One of the best ways to stay in love is to have date nights and spend quality time together.

This first activity is a simple activity to do with your partner to help you discover how you can get your date on.

Activity time:

1. Make a list of your most memorable date nights and times together from the past. Go deep into your memories. Allow yourselves time to reminisce and remember how you felt and enjoyed the times together. Ask yourselves, what made these times special? Were their common threads through each of the date nights?

2. Separately make a list of 5 date nights that you would like to go on. Do not discuss these with each other yet, they are your own individual ideas. 

3. Now once you have both finished, come back together and discuss your ideas. Were there common threads between both lists?

4. Plan your perfect date night. Use your lists to plan the perfect night. 

5. Set the date of your next date night and start planning.

6. Go on the date night and have fun!

Loving your partner also means empowering them to love themselves.

Taking care of yourself as an individual and allowing space for you to experience grace, growth and rest is vital for your spiritual, mental, emotional and physical wellbeing.

To rest and recharge individually, Steve likes to go mountain biking and Nicole is refreshed by a walk-in nature.

What is it for you?

Complete the following activity to find out how you can support each other in finding individual refreshment and to put in plans to look after each other’s wellbeing:

Activity time:

1. Together make a list of things each of you do to find refreshment. It’s ok if there are only a couple of items on each list.

2. Choose 1 each and set aside some time to allow the other to do it.

3. Plan a regular time in the week for these activities. It can be tough with busy families, but it is vital that you find time alone and refresh.

Pro tip -Date nights start well before the night starts. Get the excitement flowing by texts, email or phone calls. A good date night is an intimate date night ;)

Pro tip - You don’t need to go out or spend buckets of money to have a date night. 

Pro tip - As your kids get older you will get less time together as they stay up later. It can become harder to connect with each other on a regular basis making date nights even more important.

So, there you have it. A basic guide to help you love each other and yourself more.

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We’ll see you tomorrow for Day 4 of the guide.

Love and goodbye, from the Crockers